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benbull

You see them in movies, high school boys with big, broad shoulders and a constant grimace. They stomp around the school, yelling at smaller kids, and grabbing lunch money from the guy shivering in the corner while simultaneously giving two other kids a wedgie. You know, the guy who doesn’t know how to speak quietly, the one who keeps heckling, “retard”, “fat ass”, “loser”, “stupid”, “idiot”, “ugly” at all of the seemingly normal kids surrounding you. Yeah, him. The guy that people are only friends with because they don’t want to end up intimidated, hurt or humiliated by him.  The one that no one ever confronts, except for the principal, who contacts his parents, sends him home for a few days, until the cycle begins again.

You know that girl? The one who always curls her hair perfectly? The one who keeps whispering to her little clique of friends and pointing and laughing at you. The girl who keeps reaching across your desk in math class and poking your stomach with her pencil. Yeah, her. The girl that every other girl wants to be like, only because they feel completely insecure around her and pray for some kind of relief.

These are your stereotypical bullies. As adults they are sometimes our bosses or neighbours, or the guy who just ran us off the road. They are the “in your face, hard ass, straight up, hard core, intimidators”. Everyone knows who they are and most people steer clear.

NOT ALL BULLIES ARE STEREOTYPICAL. Don’t trick yourself into thinking someone isn’t a bully, just because they are nice sometimes or they don’t constantly act tough.

Today is Pink Shirt Day. My 7 year old went to school today proudly wearing his pink shirt. We’ve talked about bullying since he was a toddler. I hate it. I hate to see people being torn down and made to feel so tiny and small. I don’t want him to ever feel that way – but let’s face it, he probably will at some point. When and if that happens, I want him to feel confident, strong and able to pick up for himself without feeling inferior or intimidated. I want him to be the kid who sees a bully picking on another child and stands up to the bully before things escalate.

. albert

It’s time to be strong together… no matter our age, body type, race, sexual orientation, religion. Let’s end this. Let’s not be scared to be called a “tattle tale” or “narc”. Let’s tell someone! Hell, let’s tell everyone! SPEAK UP! STAND UP! Nothing will ever change if we just sit around and watch people get torn down and beaten up!

A very wise man once said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. We’re not insane! Let’s step up, step out, accept differences, embrace change and break the chains of bullying! We can do it. Parents, now is your chance to instill the right values in your children.  Teens, I promise you, the way you THINK your peers see you, is most definitely distorted. I was a teenager once and looking back I wish I had stood up in certain situations – when someone needed my help, but I was too concerned with what other people would think of me.

Be good. Do good. Lift each other up. Positivity will make the bullies disappear – and if you’re lucky, maybe even convert them to happiness! Trust me.

DS

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